Asking someone to marry you is a big deal. Even if you've lived together for years, and even if you have children together, this can be a nerve wracking undertaking. But you know that you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, so you do your best to come up with the best way to pop that magical question. No matter how likely it is, there's always the worry that they might say no. But you push that fear away and plan your proposal, hoping you get a yes in response.
A marriage proposal is a wonderful milestone that you will remember and celebrate forever. But actually presenting it to your love can be extremely intense to deal with. And it’s so easy to overthink how you’re going to propose that you forget to enjoy the process of doing so. So let's discuss how you can go about asking this question that will change your life forever.
Pick A Setting You'll Both Enjoy
The proposal is as much for you as it is for your partner. That might sound selfish to say, but if you’re unhappy with how it’s done, it’s a sign that something isn’t right. So choose something like a restaurant that you both enjoy, the place you first met or some other location from your history together. The important thing is that you make sure the surroundings feel comfortable to you. Don’t propose in public if that doesn't interest you. This isn't a romantic novel or a viral media clip - it's your life.
Have The Ring Ready
Simply knowing that you have the perfect ring all ready to put on your partner's finger ease your worries tremendously. So when you choose the ring, consider the styles they like, how it will fit on their finger and what size you will need to get. You can browse jewelry stores or even online sites to discover engagement rings of multiple varieties. Choose one that fits your budget and make sure you store it safely and properly until it's time to deliver your proposal.
Loosely Prepare Your “Pitch”
Think about how you want to "propose" the idea of a life together and loosely plan out how you will do it. You can keep it short and sweet by simply saying “will you marry me”, but it’s nice to be vulnerable and discuss how important they are to you first. Think about what you actually want to say, and not what sounds good in a movie or what everyone says you should do. Even if you seem a little goofy as you bumble through it, it will be endearing because it shows your authenticity. Planning out a loose version of what you want to say ahead of time is a wonderful idea. It's much better than leaving it to the last minute and forcing yourself to come up with something on the spot. You know that almost never goes well in a situation like this!
Hopefully these tips will help you to avoid overthinking your proposal in any way. This whole process should be a beautiful memory that you will both cherish for the rest of your lives.
This is a contributed post.